Support thread for parents of teenagers

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rockin around the bigleggy Dec 2021 3:01pm, 18 Dec 2021 6,888 posts	0 rockin around the bigleggy I was a bit more blunt, 'Try speaking like that to strangers outside this house. See how that works out. Now put a civil tongue back in your head or shut up' or many variations of that theme........
Fields & fountain, moor & mountain Dec 2021 3:30pm, 18 Dec 2021 1,323 posts	0 Fields & fountain, moor & mountain Good advice HP.
sallykate Dec 2021 3:33pm, 18 Dec 2021 8,617 posts	0 sallykate I'm getting a bit fed up with daughter (16) outsourcing responsibility of things to me. e.g.: if I don't prompt her to revise it's my fault if she doesn't do well in exams. Today: I didn't contact the person whose bookshop she works in for a couple of hours each Saturday to confirm what time he wanted her there, so it's my fault that she ended up rushing around to get ready when we eventually established (at 1308) that he wanted her there at 1345. I'm sure she'll get there in the end but it's frustrating as hell! Rant over...
Winter WAnderland Dec 2021 3:46pm, 18 Dec 2021 9,322 posts	0 Winter WAnderland Oh sallykate I feel your pain! I get shouted at for prompting to revise, then have to deal with the meltdown when no revision has been done and the results are not quite as expected! She'll definitely get there.
LindsD Dec 2021 3:48pm, 18 Dec 2021 51,590 posts	0 LindsD Yup. I have two like that. Billy is getting better, to be fair.
Purps Dec 2021 8:04pm, 18 Dec 2021 38,793 posts	0 Purps bigleggy, I'm waivering between that and riding it out. I don't know what's best. Well I do, because I know they don't speak like that outside of the house and if they did they would be in trouble. But it's also her safe space and with so much changing and about to change it must be really hard for her.
rockin around the bigleggy Dec 2021 2:46pm, 19 Dec 2021 6,889 posts	0 rockin around the bigleggy Don't know the background Purps. But I do know you'll get spoken to at a level you're prepared to accept or tolerate. You'll figure it out I'm sure. Good luck !
Serendippily Dec 2021 3:32pm, 19 Dec 2021 24,765 posts	0 Serendippily I agree but would also say you get back what you give out. I really struggle not to speak reactively and it does no good whatsoever. I am trying to speak more calmly but the more I worry the more I become fishwifeesque and with my own child, she speaks worst when she’s poorly or in a bad way Also, I try not to live a life of regret, that’s a bit of an uphill battle right now
LindsD Dec 2021 4:38pm, 19 Dec 2021 51,615 posts	0 LindsD Me. That's me. And I'm not a v good actor.
Purps Dec 2021 9:34am, 20 Dec 2021 38,809 posts	0 Purps Dipps, you are right, there are times when I speak reactively and I need to think about that and how I can do better myself to help her.