Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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jdarun Dec 2018 9:20pm, 11 Dec 2018 3,422 posts	0 jdarun Sorry for your loss Helegant. Unless the trust is clearly defined, it may be that your father had picked up some strange ideas about tax minimisation or something. If that's the case maybe you (in agreement with other beneficiaries) can rewrite the will via deed of variation to make things simpler - in any case it probably requires legal advice.
Hark the Helegant Angels Sing Dec 2018 9:50pm, 11 Dec 2018 6,092 posts	0 Hark the Helegant Angels Sing I'll be asking for legal advice from the solicitor who wrote the will - and he will be the beneficiary of a very hard stare indeed if he starts talking about £150 per hour plus VAT to explain what he drafted.
DingDongMerrilyDaisy Dec 2018 10:07pm, 11 Dec 2018 24,816 posts	0 DingDongMerrilyDaisy Sad news Helegant. I hope the will isn't going to cause you too much trouble.
LindsD Dec 2018 10:19pm, 11 Dec 2018 25,501 posts	0 LindsD So sorry, Helegant. I'm glad the end was peaceful and you were able to be there. I wish you strength for the days ahead.
Little Miss Happy Dec 2018 6:29am, 12 Dec 2018 1,024 posts	0 Little Miss Happy Condolences Helegant. I hope that being the executor doesn't cause you too much stress. My in laws have half of their house 'in trust' for their sons - it's not complicated but is a way of ensuring the state can't take it all for their care needs.
westmoors Dec 2018 7:16am, 12 Dec 2018 2,967 posts	0 westmoors So sorry for your loss Helegant.
Carpathius Dec 2018 8:28am, 12 Dec 2018 16,017 posts	0 Carpathius I'm so sorry Helegant. I wish you and your family peace xxx
Garfield Dec 2018 9:06am, 12 Dec 2018 9,722 posts	0 Garfield So sorry to hear this Helegant. xx
PaulaMc Dec 2018 10:31am, 12 Dec 2018 7,667 posts	0 PaulaMc (( Helegant )) xx
hurricanehamlyn Dec 2018 2:59pm, 12 Dec 2018 358 posts	0 hurricanehamlyn Sorry for your loss Helegant. I do hope the legal complications do not make things more difficult than they need to be.

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I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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