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Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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geordiegirl 19 Jul 9:49am, 19 Jul 2025 29,322 posts	Quote Pin geordiegirl When they suggested me having nerve block for my foot they said they tend to do most hip/knee replacements via epidural esp in the elderly or people with heart issues so fingers crossed your mum can get it done. Hope the move goes ahead and smoothly Cackleberry. Sounds difficult Icemaiden, hopefully she enjoys the coffee morning and opens up some social life for her. Hugs.
jda 19 Jul 10:24am, 19 Jul 2025 18,995 posts	Quote Pin jda Sounds like hard work Icemaiden, maybe moving house (further away) is the answer My mother's hip is playing up, was replaced only about 15y ago, seems like she is unlucky in that they usually last a good bit longer. She's just nursing it along, still walking the odd mile or two so it's not crippling but I wonder about the longer term prognosis. She's 88 next month.
Mrs Jigs (Luverlylegs) 19 Jul 11:51am, 19 Jul 2025 58,831 posts	Quote Pin Mrs Jigs (Luverlylegs) Apologies for my random misplaced post when so many of you are having difficult times.
CK2 19 Jul 2:42pm, 19 Jul 2025 3,055 posts	Quote Pin CK2 That does sound challenging Icemaiden. Does she appreciate the seriousness of the risk? My dad avoided panic alarms for most of his latter years due to denial of the risk and, I suspect, fear of the reality, although he cited cost.
EvilPixie 19 Jul 2:44pm, 19 Jul 2025 70,660 posts	Quote Pin EvilPixie I remember gran taking hers off so she could go and prune the roses The company did a test, got no reply so called the police The police found her gardening!
icemaiden 19 Jul 4:25pm, 19 Jul 2025 5,866 posts	Quote Pin icemaiden No, she thinks the world revolves around her, OH or the neighbour will find her. She has no idea that she might be stuck for hours until this happens. She ha's very irregular hours and will be awake all night due to fear of bombs in WWII. Also she will forget to wear the button, she forgets to take her pills and has no idea what day it is.
Little Miss Happy 19 Jul 4:34pm, 19 Jul 2025 8,558 posts	Quote Pin Little Miss Happy That does sound very frustrating and challenging icemaiden. I guess any action is really for your OH to take though as she's his mum which just leaves you stuck in the middle getting (understandably) more annoyed by the situation.
LindsD 19 Jul 9:29pm, 19 Jul 2025 75,103 posts	Quote Pin LindsD Gosh, that's frustrating. Especially not feeling you can go away.
LindsD 19 Jul 9:30pm, 19 Jul 2025 75,104 posts	Quote Pin LindsD And that's a shame for your Mum jda
Grast_girl 20 Jul 1:51pm, 20 Jul 2025 3,433 posts	Quote Pin Grast_girl My uncle may have been trapped in his bathroom for up to 3 days when he recently had a stroke at home. Even if she speaks to someone every day (and they conclude it's an emergency when she doesn't answer), up to 24 hours on the floor is not good for anyone.

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I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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