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Red Squirrel Jul 2017 3:06pm, 28 Jul 2017 20,153 posts	Quote Pin Red Squirrel My friend having his phone linked to his 15 year old daughter's so he has a record of all her texts. Surely kids need some privacy to send silly messages and "guess who I fancy?" stuff alongside the serious ones.
Wobbling Jul 2017 6:35pm, 28 Jul 2017 5,265 posts	Quote 1 pin Wobbling He'll know when the stalky weirdos contact her too RS.
Fierce and Fearless Fleecy Jul 2017 7:23pm, 28 Jul 2017 36,221 posts	Quote Pin Fierce and Fearless Fleecy I disagree, it shows a lack of trust. Teens are entitled to privacy. And she will just use Snapchat instead anyway.
Fierce and Fearless Fleecy Jul 2017 7:25pm, 28 Jul 2017 36,222 posts	Quote Pin Fierce and Fearless Fleecy Imagine your parents listening in on your phone conversations back when we were teens...Doesbt bear thinking about, does it?
Wine Legs Jul 2017 7:27pm, 28 Jul 2017 4,144 posts	Quote 1 pin Wine Legs I'm a bit torn by that one. I read an article recently about grooming that made a good argument for monitoring that sort of thing, but it does seem invasive.
Wine Legs Jul 2017 7:28pm, 28 Jul 2017 4,145 posts	Quote Pin Wine Legs This one: williamhenryprince.com
Fierce and Fearless Fleecy Jul 2017 7:38pm, 28 Jul 2017 36,223 posts	Quote Pin Fierce and Fearless Fleecy I still think that it's pretty unlikely that anything sinister will happen to your kids if you have honest conversations about protecting themselves from a young age, that article is pretty anecdotal TBH. Parents should probably be more worried about family members and friends etc, since that's statistically where the danger has always been and probably will continue to be. I think the more you intrude into teen's lives, the more they will push you away and push the boundaries. Which doesn't mean you shouldn't keep an eye on unusual behaviour, but ultimately they have to grow up to be responsible adults, and I feel parents nowadays just cannot fucking let go. It does nobody any favours. Also, girls in particular have their freedom curtailed from a young age compared with boys. So they are less likely to be allowed to walk to school or go out by themselves, it's a real issue of their rights being lesser than boys' because of the whole stranger danger idea. This makes me sad
Carpathius Jul 2017 7:39pm, 28 Jul 2017 12,234 posts	Quote Pin Carpathius Make a non - negotiable rule that if there's any contact with someone they and you don't know in real life, you have to be told. Then trust them.
Jono. Jul 2017 7:53pm, 28 Jul 2017 5,458 posts	Quote Pin Jono. I'm with Fleecey on this one and we had that rule with Molly Carp - mind you she has still bumped into some right weirdo's - molly J and Mrs J have a good relationship though - its just parenting at the end of the day.
Wobbling Jul 2017 8:13pm, 28 Jul 2017 5,266 posts	Quote Pin Wobbling I guess it depends on the kid tho. When I was 15 I was a slutty little know-it-all and my parents were too busy destroying their marriage to do much to build trust with their offspring. I would have got into all sorts of trouble if I'd had access to the internet.