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The benefits of giving up alcohol

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HappyG(rrr)
HappyG(rrr)
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Well done Sigh. I only use my former drunkenness as cautionary tales only. And also to deflect as in "been there, done that, do NOT want to do it again!"

Work leaving do tonight for loads of people. There will be lots of alcohol. But there will be lots of nice chat without alcohol too, so I'm looking forward to it! :-) G
Joopsy
Joopsy
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I often share my drunken tales, there were some great times and I almost certainly wouldn’t have been with my wife had I not been a drinker. I also often share the fact that it drove me to the depths of suicide and that I was on the verge of losing absolutely everything.

It’s ok to regret the past, just don’t dwell on it. Same goes for looking back at good times.
LindsD
LindsD
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I also would not have met and got together with OH. That makes me feel a bit weird.
HappyG(rrr)
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My ex wife and I, our relationship was born out of drunken antics. But my now wife and life partner and I met when I was making my decision to stop. I think she saw me drunk once. In some ways, the problem with that is that she doesn't know what bad, drunk me looks like. But she's used to me the way I am now and she's understood that drinking isn't an option for me, so she supports that fully. Even if she possibly doesn't understand or hasn't seen first hand anyway, exactly why.

I think if your OH has seen your lows, in some way that's a good thing Linds. My wife and I met when I was 35, and had grown up (a bit!). I was a different person from who I was at 21. Or even at 33! :-) G
LindsD
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I guess, HappyG. We were 30 and 33, but still very much drinkers.
Nicholls595
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Bazoaxe
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Mcgoo- makes it a nice round 60days though

I’ve had to decline HGs invite to the work do tonight to avoid temptation. Only joking. I actually have a bona fide prior arrangement having bought a ticket to sit in the cold and watch football.
McGoohan
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That is true Baz. Cold footie - nice opportunity for a hot drink ;-)
mrs shanksi
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I met shanksi in a pub.
DocM
DocM
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i barely ever drunnk until I met my hubby!

About This Thread

Maintained by HappyG(rrr)
Looks as though this thread has become popular again, here in 2010 (it's now 2024, and it started in 2008, so I think "ever popular" might be more apt! :-) G ) :-) Good Luck everyone.

A recent plea for those struggling to "reach out" as they say in US of A!

"Anyone not feeling strong and confident, please shout out. Or fmail. Or any other comms that works. Don't drink alcohol when you don't want to, for lack of someone to talk to. Pick up the phone, not the bottle."

Some acronyms, in case people use them:
JFT - Just for today
ODAAT - One day at a time
KIS - Keep it simple
TBOGUA - The Benefits Of Giving Up Alcohol (the title of this thread!)

New feature: article/blog of the month (period may change randomly!) Swittle's wonderful 14,611 days blog: (see links below)

Linking Joopsy's 17 year blog too, cos it's awesome!

There is a GREAT article summarising some of the benefits, to save you having to trawl through the thread (includes links to helpful apps and other resources).

And a great list of Alternative Drinks started by the lovely LindsD:

Please add to these articles and make them as valuable as possible! Thanks! :-) G

And one from way back when...
Dirt Monkey's brilliant blog on TBOGUA too - go try this...

Rebel has recommended a couple of good books:
The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober: THE SUNDAY TIMES BESTSELLER
by Catherine Gray

The Alcohol Experiment: 30 Days to Take Control, Cut Down or Give Up For Good
by Annie Grace

A great response from a health professional in Ireland responding to a question from a Guardian reader about why the warnings on alcoholic drinks that are coming in:

theguardian.com

"Alcohol is responsible for at least 1,000 cancer cases every year in Ireland, with one in eight breast cancer cases arising from alcohol use. Even one to two drinks per day increases the risk of developing cancer, and that risk is the same whether those drinks are wine, spirits or beer. Unfortunately, there is a very low level of public awareness that alcohol has been classed as a Group 1 carcinogen, meaning it is carcinogenic to humans. That is why Ireland has passed legislation that provides for health information labels on alcohol products, including warnings about cancer, liver disease and the danger of drinking in pregnancy. It is unsurprising that the alcohol industry, which promotes its products with carefully crafted myths of good times for all, is objecting to the mandatory provision of facts (Anger brews in Italy over Ireland’s plans for alcohol health warnings, 12 January).
Dr Sheila Gilheany
CEO, Alcohol Action Ireland
"

And the all important fabulous services:
Alcoholics Anonymous
National Helpline (FREE) 0800 9177 650
help@aamail.org

Al Anon
020 7403 0888

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We're adding in our own Fetch offer of one to one contact too, for anyone who doesn't want to post in the thread for whatever reason. Please feel free to fmail ANY of the names listed below.

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HappyG(rrr)
( Oscar the grouch RIP )
mrs shanksi
Derby Tup
iaincr
Love Lettuce
DocM
LindsD
GeneHunt59
GregP star
Joopsy star

Note: we're none of us experts, but we're happy to listen, to answer any questions and to offer support if you think it would help you. Except star marked above. Who are experts! :-)

(Note II: at Christmas some names may change a bit, but I'm sure you can still find us to fmail!)
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