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Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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LindsD
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I'm sorry. That sounds very stressful. He sounds very unwell.
decorum
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Hugs to all. And remember, be kind to yourselves!

We've had to take a couple of weeks off from sorting dad's crap. We were burned out and it was starting to affect us, as a couple. We've certainly learned a lot from his selfish, lazy, way of living life ~ we are already putting stuff in place to aid each other for when one of us goes ~ or for those left behind if we happen to depart at tge same time!

Sibling still thinks that dad's hording of crap was a dragon's horde of gold ... I'm so glad that we put finding and consolidating it all in the hands of a probate bod/specialist (not a full solicitor, but works at a renowned Solicitors and, due to the not a >full< on solicitor ... so her rate is lower but her training is equal ;) ~ worth knowing if you need 'more milk to your moo').
Little Miss Happy
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I hope your dad gets the help he needs G_g.

Good to hear that you are looking after yourself decorum.
Mandymoo
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Hope your dad gets some help GG

Glad to see your looking after yourselves Decorum
CK2
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That sounds very worrying G_g. I hope he’s able to get support without too much delay.
Grast_girl
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He's just let me know that they're keeping him in. It's been a long afternoon of no news.
LindsD
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Hugs
Grast_girl
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Apparently my uncle is doing a bit better, thinner liquids and more solid food, which hopefully means his swallow and speech are improving.
LindsD
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That's good
Grast_girl
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Got to take the small wins atm.

About This Thread

Maintained by LindsD
I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk
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