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Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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Grast_girl
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No need to apologise @Musashi

That sounds really horrible for you and your family. I hope the inquest doesn't take long and you can get some closure.
LipGloss
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Oh my goodness that's a lot to deal with. Hope it gets sorted for you soon
McGoohan
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No apologies necessary. That was a huge amount to deal with
compartmental
compartmental
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That’s what we’re here for Musashi, to dump out everything you need to say to *someone*

I’m sorry, that sounds very painful to keep drawing out for you & the family. I hope you can feel that you are one step further, even if it means more steps yet to come
Little Miss Happy
Little Miss Happy
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Nothing at all to apologise for Musashi. That's an awful lot to deal with. Hopefully the inquest won't be too long and you can start to move on.

My MiL is quite cognitively intact but often repeats things she's already told me or tells me things as news that I've told her in the first place.
HappyG(rrr)
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Wow, that sounds tough Musashi. Sympathies. G
CK2
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Reading that in one go (on top of some other things we’re dealing with) really brought it home how much we’ve been dealing with! Thanks everyone for your support. (Mrs Musashi)
LindsD
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Hugs to you both. That is such a lot to deal with. This is the place.

And thanks LMH. I think in a twisted way I want Mum to be cognitively declining because then it excuses her selfish and upsetting behaviour.
Lizzie W
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That's a lot. I hope people are looking after you both too.
TeeBee
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Hugs to everyone here. Everyone sounds exhausted - or ami projecting my exhaustion?
Think.ill be here more regularly going forward.

About This Thread

Maintained by LindsD
I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk
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