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Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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Little Miss Happy
Little Miss Happy
Mar 2024
5:37pm, 4 Mar 2024
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Sorry for your loss TR.
EvilPixie
EvilPixie
Mar 2024
5:50pm, 4 Mar 2024
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So sorry TR
Love to you and the family
So glad she got to say she loved you
Bazoaxe
Bazoaxe
Mar 2024
7:29pm, 4 Mar 2024
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TR. I am so sorry to hear of your loss
Mandymoo
Mandymoo
Mar 2024
7:34pm, 4 Mar 2024
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So sorry TR for yours and your families loss. Sounds like your mum was surrounded with love xx
McGoohan
McGoohan
Mar 2024
7:49pm, 4 Mar 2024
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Sorry for your loss TR. Your family gave her the best end anyone could hope for: being close to people you love and who love you.
leaguefreak
leaguefreak
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9:38pm, 4 Mar 2024
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Sorry for your loss TR
ThorntonRunner
ThorntonRunner
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10:31pm, 4 Mar 2024
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ThorntonRunner
Thank you everybody. Your thoughts are much appreciated heart
It's been a strange day. After mum died at 10:30, doctor came at 12:30 so then I was able to phone the undertakers. Mum had a funeral plan so that was straightforward. The undertakers came at 3:30.

Sister took an hour out to tell my elder nephew (both nephews are on the autistic spectrum and elder needs careful handling with an event like this - all good though. He went for a walk on his own to start processing it and his brother stayed home to be there when he returned whilst my sister rejoined us at mum's).
So a lot of sitting around where we could think about admin etc to come, but not actually do or plan anything concrete. That will come soon enough.
Whilst we are sad, we are also relieved that it was a rapid decline and end, and that mum didn't suffer for an extended time. The fact that it was a life completed rather than a life cut short makes it easier, and we were blessed that apart from my eldest who lives in Cumbria all the close family had time with mum in the final 48 hours. Whilst it would have been nice for her to make her century in June, the price for her in discomfort and pain would not have been worth it.

We are very blessed.
Mrs Jigs (Luverlylegs)
Mrs Jigs (Luverlylegs)
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My condolences ThorntonRunner, so good that family were present in your Mum’s final days as were able, comforting for you all that she had a peaceful passing without drama.
macca 53
macca 53
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11:33pm, 4 Mar 2024
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Sorry for your loss TR
Grast_girl
Grast_girl
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8:05am, 5 Mar 2024
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My condolences TR. Blessed indeed to have a little time, but not suffer too much.

About This Thread

Maintained by LindsD
I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk
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