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Lip Gloss Jul 2021 7:31pm, 7 Jul 2021 52,872 posts	Quote Pin Lip Gloss Oh dear Paula hope they find him okay and there’s not too much damage.
CK2 Jul 2021 8:17pm, 7 Jul 2021 877 posts	Quote Pin CK2 That’s tough Paula. I hope all’s ok.
leaguefreak Jul 2021 8:21pm, 7 Jul 2021 9,680 posts	Quote Pin leaguefreak Hope they find him OK.
Mandymoo Jul 2021 8:31pm, 7 Jul 2021 12,136 posts	Quote Pin Mandymoo Hope all ok
PaulaMc Jul 2021 8:40pm, 7 Jul 2021 10,579 posts	Quote Pin PaulaMc He found him ok but can’t work out what’s happened, other than he’s pretty sure it’s not what his dad said happened. It’s always someone else’s fault when he bangs or scratches the car and this time there’s damage to one of the wheels which means the car is undrivable, and it’s hard to marry up FiL’s version of events with the evidence. And his phone won’t charge. And his car battery is flat with the windows down, because he was sitting with the hazards on for a couple of hours. And Green Flag have totally messed up the booking to assist him (basically they were supposed to organise help hours ago but nobody did it). And then FiL got out of the car for no reason when OH told him to stay sitting down, and fell backwards abs banged his head - this is becoming an all to familiar occurrence, we think it’s blood pressure related but not sure. It took 3 people to pick him up. He seems ok and OH is watching him carefully while he waits for his sister to come and collect him. He can’t take him home himself as the car windows are stuck open and if he leaves it he says it will be stripped in minutes. And he’s missing the football. It’s not been the best of evenings. I’ve offered to go and swap places but he’s said he’s ok for the time being.
Lip Gloss Jul 2021 8:43pm, 7 Jul 2021 52,877 posts	Quote Pin Lip Gloss Oh dear Paula all sounds a bit of a mess.
HellsBells Jul 2021 8:44pm, 7 Jul 2021 28,119 posts	Quote Pin HellsBells Paula, maybe suggest an ambulance as he hit his head. At the mention of an RTC you would also get police attendance and then the question of future driving may be taken out of the family’s hands
jda Jul 2021 8:45pm, 7 Jul 2021 10,472 posts	Quote Pin jda Sounds like a difficult evening. But perhaps a good opportunity to keep the car out of use for the future.
leaguefreak Jul 2021 8:45pm, 7 Jul 2021 9,682 posts	Quote Pin leaguefreak Oh my. Hope this is the wakeup call he seems to need. Was anyone else involved?
PaulaMc Jul 2021 8:46pm, 7 Jul 2021 10,580 posts	Quote Pin PaulaMc That’s what I wondered HB. I’ll speak to him.

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I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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