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icemaiden Aug 2021 1:50pm, 18 Aug 2021 5,235 posts	Quote Pin icemaiden I can confirm the that pedalling from the sofa is a good thing if you can't do anything else. I had one after my accident a few years back and pedalled til it broke.
LindsD Aug 2021 1:52pm, 18 Aug 2021 49,142 posts	Quote Pin LindsD Maybe I should get my Mum one. Apparently she can no longer carry a basket of washing out to the line
MarkyMarkMark (3M) Aug 2021 2:08pm, 18 Aug 2021 15,923 posts	Quote Pin MarkyMarkMark (3M) Wish my Mum had 2 functional legs. She would have liked one of those! She has an awesome hoist sling thingy though. (I'll post a picture.) But she hates it for all that it represents. 😣 Getting older slowly is cruel. I think it's better than the alternative, but sometimes I wonder.
Little Miss Happy Aug 2021 2:28pm, 18 Aug 2021 4,843 posts	Quote Pin Little Miss Happy Grep - that's what I and Baz were referring too. I hope he settles icemaiden. I think that's justified lf. You must have the patience of a saint Linds.
LindsD Aug 2021 2:44pm, 18 Aug 2021 49,145 posts	Quote Pin LindsD Thanks
kaysdee Aug 2021 3:53pm, 18 Aug 2021 245 posts	Quote Pin kaysdee 3M, my S17 has ceiling track hoists in his bedroom and bathroom. I’ve resisted putting one in the living room so far as I’d like a space where disability (that’s not strictly true, I fully accept that… perhaps “equipment” is a better word) doesn’t stare me in the face every minute. He stays in his wheelchair or we manually hoist him in his sling to the sofa when he’s in here. Getting bigger though (probably 13-14yr size). We’ve just had additional handrails installed and permanent led lighting on the stairs for OH. His dementia has been hard work lately. Probably foolish to hope that things settle once the kids get back to school but I’m massively struggling at the moment. He still has capacity and understands his diagnosis, but the change in his personality is stark and his inability to “function” is wearing. He talks a good talk - the factual detail is all wrong though, so we’re in the period where outsiders would wonder what my problem is as he seems totally fine! There is no such thing as a partnership and I feel very alone. Totally depressing when you consider he’s still relatively early stage. I’ve had a week off and am twice as tired as when I left. Can’t wait to get back to the office tomorrow!
LazyDaisy Aug 2021 4:25pm, 18 Aug 2021 34,047 posts	Quote Pin LazyDaisy Gosh Kaysdee I do feel for you. Do you get any respite at all (other than at work, which is hardly 'respite')?
Lip Gloss Aug 2021 6:15pm, 18 Aug 2021 53,978 posts	Quote Pin Lip Gloss Oh Kaysdee that sounds like a lot of hard work to carry all by yourself. X Sister has had a call today that if all his tests are negative they are hoping the specialist transport will be in place for the 27th to move dad up to the care home here.
MarkyMarkMark (3M) Aug 2021 6:46pm, 18 Aug 2021 15,925 posts	Quote Pin MarkyMarkMark (3M) That's a very hard thing, Kaysdee. Sorry. Mum was always resistant to permanent alterations, so most of her equipment is at least mobile.
Mandymoo Aug 2021 8:02pm, 18 Aug 2021 12,358 posts	Quote Pin Mandymoo Thats so hard Kaysdee x Thats good news LG

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I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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