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Bazoaxe Aug 2024 12:48pm, 7 Aug 2024 27,172 posts	Quote Pin Bazoaxe BiL may have had discussions, but of course he wont speak to us so we have no idea. Apparently the consultant may be phoning this afternoon and the GP defo is. Also they didnt even know until Mrs Axe told them this morning that as recently as 2 weeks ago she was at home with 4 daily care visits.
LindsD Aug 2024 2:20pm, 7 Aug 2024 69,202 posts	Quote Pin LindsD Hope there is some clarity after the phone calls. Definitely hope the consultant calls.
geordiegirl Aug 2024 4:15pm, 7 Aug 2024 23,670 posts	Quote Pin geordiegirl I am suspicious about what BiL may have said to them too. Hope you can speak to someone and resolve
Dave W Aug 2024 4:43pm, 7 Aug 2024 21,226 posts	Quote Pin Dave W Cataract op done and dusted. Just need to see if it was a success now. Then the other one.
LindsD Aug 2024 4:46pm, 7 Aug 2024 69,212 posts	Quote Pin LindsD That's good news.
Little Miss Happy Aug 2024 6:16pm, 7 Aug 2024 7,304 posts	Quote Pin Little Miss Happy Hope it worked Dave. BiL's involvement isn't at all helpful in this Baz. I hope the phone calls made things clearer.
geordiegirl Aug 2024 6:22pm, 7 Aug 2024 23,675 posts	Quote Pin geordiegirl Great news Dave
kaysdee Aug 2024 6:38pm, 7 Aug 2024 331 posts	Quote Pin kaysdee What a mess, Baz. I’m so sorry. Would MIL understand if it was explained to her? I’m all for informed consent, but my OH wouldn’t understand information such as this on more than a very superficial level and would become confused and distressed (as no doubt it would take quite a few attempts these days and he still wouldn’t really get it). I just worry that it would be traumatic for your MIL if “too much” information was given, but I understand a person’s right to be informed/consulted and everyone is individual when it comes to dementia and age. He is in a care home now but I’ve had to basically lie to OH on more than one occasion recently as an act of kindness. I hope you get further answers soon.
Lip Gloss Aug 2024 7:42pm, 7 Aug 2024 76,952 posts	Quote Pin Lip Gloss Tough one still Baz. Hope you feel the benefit Dave. 50 years of clutter/stuff have now been disposed of and we are done. Tomorrow is a tidy of the front garden and Friday lock the door for the last time. We are knackered.
Mandymoo Aug 2024 7:54pm, 7 Aug 2024 19,497 posts	Quote Pin Mandymoo Sounds like it has been a lot of hard work xx

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I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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