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Support thread for parents of teenagers

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Serendippily Apr 2021 9:14pm, 2 Apr 2021 21,445 posts	Quote Pin Serendippily Shared presence is always the best conversation approach. Direct questions are hard, i buy a lot of jigsaws as once c9 is distracted she often starts chatting
leaguefreak Apr 2021 8:31am, 3 Apr 2021 9,264 posts	Quote Pin leaguefreak I'm missing the long drives to hockey matches. That's how I usually get to chat to my kids. Cedd's first high school parents evening was a success. (The y7 one didn't happen because of covid). We took the tactical decision not to meet the art or music teachers as he has as much natural talent as a brick in those areas and assured me he behaves well and puts effort in. None of us thought ten minutes of being told he's below average in an area he already knows he's bad at would help anything. I had a spare teen eating subway and avoiding eye contact in my garden yesterday. It was lovely. They seemed relieved to be told to set up garden chairs away from us!!!!
Lorraine Apr 2021 12:20pm, 3 Apr 2021 1,640 posts	Quote Pin Lorraine For various reason, mainly MH my eldest started university age 21, just as most of her friends had finished. She isn’t the oldest on her course, has made some great friends ( all the same age as her ) and is really getting a lot out of the course. She is there because she wants to be not because of school/peer pressure. When she left school she was adamant that university wasn’t the place for her then. As she said universities aren’t going anywhere I can go at any age if that’s what I want to do.
LindsD Apr 2021 3:10pm, 3 Apr 2021 46,136 posts	Quote Pin LindsD That's great to hear from both of you
Pikelet Apr 2021 10:41am, 19 Apr 2021 4,881 posts	Quote Pin Pikelet Having some issues with my 16 yo son. He’s been losing weight by restricting food and has told me this morning he thinks he needs to see a doctor. He’s become obsessed with checking how he looks all the time and has done an online test re body dysmorphic disorder and scored high. I managed to get through to our doctors (a minor miracle on a Monday), they do phone calls to check if you need an appointment so someone is calling him today. He’s at school so just hoping he can take the call. Feeling useless to know how to help.
LindsD Apr 2021 10:43am, 19 Apr 2021 46,465 posts	Quote Pin LindsD That sounds worrying, Pikelet.
Pikelet Apr 2021 10:55am, 19 Apr 2021 4,882 posts	Quote Pin Pikelet I’m just glad he’s said he’ll talk to someone, that’s the first hurdle cleared.
halfpint Apr 2021 10:59am, 19 Apr 2021 34,681 posts	Quote Pin halfpint I would guess it is actually quite significant that he recognises there might be a problem. Hopefully he'll get some help early.
Pikelet Apr 2021 11:10am, 19 Apr 2021 4,883 posts	Quote Pin Pikelet Thanks guys.
DocM Apr 2021 1:31pm, 19 Apr 2021 41,092 posts	Quote Pin DocM Must be very worrying but the very fact that he has asked for help is a great start.