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Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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22 Aug
9:40pm, 22 Aug 2019
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Thanks both. It's been hovering in the middle distance for the last few months. We thought we were going to lose him back in June, and although he survived that I think in most senses we did lose him back then. I'm wanting him not to suffer more and I don't see his situation changing for the better so that really limits the options.
22 Aug
9:44pm, 22 Aug 2019
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22 Aug
10:02pm, 22 Aug 2019
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Lip Gloss
Tough one Nellers - hugs to you all :-(
22 Aug
10:23pm, 22 Aug 2019
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macca 53
22 Aug
10:38pm, 22 Aug 2019
736 posts
Sorry to hear that Nellers. Although sounds like you've got his best interests at heart, which is the most important thing.
22 Aug
10:47pm, 22 Aug 2019
35478 posts
Lip Gloss
My sister is traveling home from my dad's today so will catch up on all the news tomorrow. One thing I know is he has agreed to have a career in every day which will be fine until he has to pay for it ;-)
6:34am, 23 Aug 2019
1565 posts
Little Miss Happy
Sorry to hear that you're having to deal with that again Nellers. So difficult to know what to do for the best.

Excellent re the Kindle and parental controls TR, made me chuckle, but sorry to hear about your dad's decreasing mobility. It must be so difficult knowing that you're declining like that - it's bad enough at my age.

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About This Thread

I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)

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Who pays for residential care? Information here:


Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia