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Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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1 Jun
6:53pm, 1 Jun 2020
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My mum is fit and well. I know this because today I cycled to her care home to see her, by appointment. I sat and waited, but she was fast asleep in her room upstairs! I was invited to go up to see if I could wake her but when I got there she was so comfy in her armchair and just couldn't rouse herself, it seemed unkind to disturb her. I changed her flowers and put her new toiletries in her bathroom, and came home! At least I got a bike ride there and back out of it :-)
1 Jun
8:51pm, 1 Jun 2020
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Oh bless her LD. As you say at least you got to see her and had a nice bike ride.

Mum is still in hospital, still showing no signs and doing ok.
4:02am, 2 Jun 2020
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MM: Good news, I hope it continues that way!
5:49am, 2 Jun 2020
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Little Miss Happy
Good news Mandy.

That sounds almost normal Daisy.
7:06am, 2 Jun 2020
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Aw Daisy lovely you were able to see your mum, something we never would have thought would become impossible.

Mandy glad to hear your mum seems to be doing ok. Prayers to you both and to others in similar situations.

My uncle found another lump this time in his armpit. I read up on enlarged lymph nodes and it sounds positive even if it is cancer it’s a more curable cancer and it could also be a sign of infection somewhere. He doesn’t have the symptoms of cancer (looking at those). He should get results in the next day or two. My auntie and cousins are understandably in bits. The relaxation of the rules and being able to see more people and in your own garden has helped them and they had a family BBQ yesterday.

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About This Thread

Maintained by LindsD
I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)

Other useful links



Who pays for residential care? Information here:


Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.
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