Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.
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Nov 2017
7:53pm, 10 Nov 2017
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ChrisHB
My mum saw her pain specialist yesterday, had her prescription revised and I would say has 10 times more energy today. Seems she might also see her dizziness go away.
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Nov 2017
6:27am, 11 Nov 2017
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Little Miss Happy
Good news LD and Chris. LD if the paracetamol are prescribed and your mum has capacity the staff have to offer them. I don't know the circumstances Seren and whatever they are it's difficult but I think you have to do what's best for you. If you don't see her is that going to cause you more regret and hurt than if you do? Only you know the answer I'm afraid. |
Nov 2017
9:53am, 11 Nov 2017
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Serendippily
Thanks lmh I don’t know it can take weeks for me to recover from a visit and even when it’s nice I’ll find something thrown at me later I never seem to feel strong enough to face it. I’m in a right pickle about it. Keep thinking another month and I’ll stop being a wimp she took care of me through thick and thin but now there’s only a shell of a relationship where everyone has to pretend or scream at each other
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Nov 2017
10:34am, 11 Nov 2017
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Little Miss Happy
(((Seren))) it doesn't sound as though you're being a wimp to me.
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Nov 2017
11:04am, 11 Nov 2017
15,585 posts
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ChrisHB
You have to look after yourself, S.
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Nov 2017
9:41pm, 11 Nov 2017
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Grast_girl
((Seren))
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Nov 2017
11:08pm, 11 Nov 2017
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TeeBee
Dipps. - we need another run. Soon. 
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Nov 2017
7:54am, 12 Nov 2017
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Corrah
Currently down with folks but heading home today. Mum is Italian and has reverted to speaking mostly Italian now which makes communication even harder as I was never taught it. She tried to put her dirty clothes in the coal boiler as she couldn't remember where the washing machine was and she came into my room and took my jewellery thinking it was hers. (Nearly lost a pair of earrings in the process). She insists on locking her wardrobes and then losing the keys. Dad spends most of his day hunting for things she has lost. Not even sure she washes frequently as I have had to prompt her. Social services are involved but she tells them she manages fine and with dad being deaf he probably just nods as per usual if he doesn't catch what is said. To be honest I feel a bit on the guilty side as my sister lives close by and has to deal with it all. The house is beyond their capability of looking after and there is over 40 years of junk here. They should have moved years ago. Now dad is trying to start getting the place cleared to sell but with mum constantly looking for him if he goes off to do something it's almost impossible. Sorry for the long post. |
Nov 2017
8:20am, 12 Nov 2017
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LindsD
Oh Corrah, that sounds tough. My sister lives away and does what she can. I'm sure you do, too. Don't feel guilty. (())
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Nov 2017
1:04pm, 12 Nov 2017
20,368 posts
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LazyDaisy
That is very tough Corrah but if experiences on this thread are anything to go by, you are certainly not alone in feeling a mixture of sadness, guilt and helplessness. It is so hard to go through but if you can visit from time to time and give your sister moral support when you're back home, there is no need for any guilt. xx
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