Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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Velociraptor
Velociraptor
Sep 2017
9:35am, 20 Sep 2017
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Velociraptor
Condolences, TB xxx
bigleggy
bigleggy
Sep 2017
12:59pm, 20 Sep 2017
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bigleggy
Condolences, TB , take care.....
pedroscalls
pedroscalls
Sep 2017
1:07pm, 20 Sep 2017
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pedroscalls
Condolences TB and family.
TeeBee
TeeBee
Sep 2017
1:12pm, 20 Sep 2017
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TeeBee
Gosh you are all being so kind, thank you. Yes the 1 am call was a bit disorientating but we knew what it was going to be.

In an age when we hear so many awful stories about end of life care for the elderly, I cannot praise my m-i-l's care highly enough. We could turn up any time unannounced and she would be comfortable, clean and look well cared for. They always had time to talk and (with us being 600 miles away) kept us regularly informed. Wonderful, wonderful people. She/we were very blessed.
jdarun
jdarun
Sep 2017
1:19pm, 20 Sep 2017
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jdarun
It's lovely to hear stories of good care that works out well, especially with my father facing (in high probability) a similar fate in the future.
LindsD
LindsD
Sep 2017
5:47pm, 20 Sep 2017
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LindsD
600 miles away. Wow. That will be difficult. Even my 55 miles away feels hard at the moment.
Carpathius
Carpathius
Sep 2017
5:49pm, 20 Sep 2017
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Carpathius
It is lovely to hear stories of good care. It should all be like that.
lammo
lammo
Sep 2017
5:50pm, 20 Sep 2017
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lammo
Indeed carp, we all hope for that for our relatives and ourselves.
Little Miss Happy
Little Miss Happy
Sep 2017
6:12pm, 20 Sep 2017
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Little Miss Happy
I can't imagine coping at the distance and fortunately won't have to - in laws are due to move and be a five minute walk away on the 29th September. Could be looking at a whole load of different stress then - but hopefully not for a while once we have them settled, depends on how FiL copes with the move. I'm hoping it won't stress and disorientate him too much as he's visited us and knows his way round the village so it won't be totally new. Difficult to predict though.
.B.
.B.
Sep 2017
6:39pm, 20 Sep 2017
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.B.
It is good to hear your MiL was so well looked after TeeBee. Love to you all xx

About This Thread

Maintained by LindsD
I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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