Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.
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Feb 2020
5:38pm, 21 Feb 2020
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Jenelopy
My Mum, who is only 76 is getting increasingly unsteady on her feet. Parkinsons was mentioned, but then testing ruled that out. As far as I can tell, she has continuous rounds of medical appointments with various people testing various things, but no diagnoses (except that she'll probably need a stent in her heart and an artificial hip at some point). Six years ago she was regularly rock climbing indoors & out and enjoying multiday walks, including quite a challenging one in NZ that OH struggled with. A year ago she could just about manage multi day walking in NZ (we carried much of her stuff and the track was quite easy), rough ground was noticeably challenging for her. You could see the huge amount of mental effort and physical effort required to work out how to move her feet over rocks and tree roots Now she does the local short (half hour) walk round a country park twice a week - the long (1 hour group) is too hard for her. She has had a few stumbles, trips, falls and minor injuries. My parents are having hand rails fitted so she can get in and out of the bath, and ones by the front and back door so that she can get over the door step. Surely this shouldn't be happening for another decade? |
Feb 2020
6:08pm, 21 Feb 2020
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Little Miss Happy
It depends on the cause I'm afraid Jen, if it's neurological or cognitive rather than physical that might explain it?
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Feb 2020
6:13pm, 21 Feb 2020
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Jenelopy
Yeah, I do wonder if it isn't (entirely) a physical issue. I suspect that life isn't helped by the fact she needs to get up and wee multiple times in the night, it can be 10 times in a bad night. Sometimes it is painful for her (but it isn't a UTI). In my experience, nothing is made better by lack of sleep. This has been going on for years, with various hypothesis and treatments but no diagnoses either. She had a hysterectomy back in 2016, but that hasn't really helped. |
Feb 2020
6:34pm, 21 Feb 2020
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LazyDaisy
That sounds very tough for her Jenelopy. I hope before too much longer the medics determine what the problem is, and can do something to help her.
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Feb 2020
6:41pm, 21 Feb 2020
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Little Miss Happy
Lack of sleep makes anything worse Jen.
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Feb 2020
6:43pm, 21 Feb 2020
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Lip Gloss
My FiL has been hospitalised until they can hopefully get his medication sorted and also give my MiL a break  Keep strong folks |
Feb 2020
9:13pm, 21 Feb 2020
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Carpathius
Everyone is going through such difficult times now I wish it all didn't sound so familiar. Keep talking, to the official people like nurses and therapists and here too xxx
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Feb 2020
7:11am, 22 Feb 2020
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Little Miss Happy
Hopefully that's going to be a positive thing LG.
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Feb 2020
7:15am, 22 Feb 2020
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LindsD
Hugs to all (())
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Feb 2020
7:46pm, 22 Feb 2020
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Dave..M
As JR said yesterday this thread has been so helpful to allow me to talk about my worries, although my troubles are far smaller than those that so many of you are dealing with. I've not been posting updates on my situation, partially because everything seems to be going (reasonably) well and I didn't want to jinx it. Mum was discharged from hospital a couple of weeks ago with care assistants from the ward visiting three times a day, both my sister and I have been able to get up to N. Wales to visit for a few days each and touch wood Mum is coping. Apparently SS are organising carers to take over from hospital staff for long term care in a couple of weeks, I'm not sure I'm completely happy about that, but it's probably the best we could hope for. To be honest I didn't think mum would recover from a broken shoulder at 97 but it seems she's even tougher than I thought so fingers crossed everything works out. My best wishes to all of you, thanks for your support and I hope we all get successful outcomes. |
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