Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.
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Aug 2019
1:31pm, 16 Aug 2019
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LazyDaisy
Ah, that clarifies their decision to me, thanks Mike. Is she able to understand that she might have to move if she doesn't use the mobility aids?
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Aug 2019
2:31pm, 16 Aug 2019
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Lip Gloss
Hope it goes well Mandy. Aw Mike that's a shame but hopefully a solution can be found. Sister is making yet another trip down south this weekend and has a meeting set up with the social worker and another from AgeUk ( the boss of the woman who has his case ) He pressed his alarm again this week and RR phoned my sister to get a neighbour I to check but she missed it so they ended up going in to find him collapsed on the bathroom floor. Surely by paying for this alarm we shouldn't be expected to get a neighbour to be the one who responds to the alarm - she might find anything when she gets in 
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Aug 2019
2:39pm, 16 Aug 2019
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TomahawkMike
Lazydaisy, At this point she isn't able to understand much. Totally different to Tuesday when she was lucid and on good form. Since then not in good shape and finding difficulty in understanding who we are and what is going on. We will try and convey that to her if she turns the right corner
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Aug 2019
3:45pm, 16 Aug 2019
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LazyDaisy
Oh dear Tomahawk, that sounds so worrying for you all LG a friend has a similar problem with her mother's alarm - the service phones her, and if she's away (as she was recently on a cruise) they expect a neighbour to visit. I think their responsibility is just to alert 'someone' in the event of a fall - which, given where your dad lives, and you live, 500 miles apart, is not necessarily a great deal of help
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Aug 2019
3:40pm, 21 Aug 2019
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Grast_girl
For those still with relatives living at home, but with severe mental impairment, they might be eligible for a reduction in council tax: moneysavingexpert.com |
Aug 2019
8:40pm, 22 Aug 2019
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ThorntonRunner
Took mum (95) and dad (91) to a tea room for coffee and cake last Friday afternoon. We arrived in drizzle and mum, accompanied by Mrs TR, strode off to get out of the rain. Dad's developed a shuffling walk over the last few months and we trailed behind. "I'm wearing out" was his comment. When Mrs TR and mum went to order the coffee he confided that he'd fallen over in the local shopping precinct earlier in the week (shuffle -> catch feet on uneven paving). Several people had rushed over to help him up "It's hard" he said, not being able to do what he could. I get the impression he hasn't told mum of this incident. A bit more upbeat: Mum phoned me earlier this week to ask me to get a kindle for her. They're going away for a few days and she'd rather not take several books with her. I've now done this, but as they don't have an Amazon account have set it up on my account and have used parental controls to limit it to the books she's requested and prevent her from inadvertently spending money on my credit card 😊 |
Aug 2019
9:07pm, 22 Aug 2019
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Nellers
Had a call from my sister this afternoon. Dad (who is still in hospital, struggling to eat properly and often incoherent, "Manic Delusion" I think was how they described it) has developed what looks like another bout of pneumonia. They've got him on oxygen and they're going to get him on antibiotics again, with some further tests tomorrow. We (my sister and I) aren't sure that getting him through this is actually in his best interests. He's utterly miserable, bedbound and has been for most of 3 months now, he's losing weight and getting weaker, he doesn't know where he is or why most of the time but he knows he's not home and he's bored and lonely. His mental state and his deafness mean he can't watch telly or read a book or listen to music. He might get through this latest hurdle but he's not going to "get better" in any meaningful way. Sister had a word with the docs and they're going to review the situation tomorrow. Not sure whether I should be dropping everything and heading up there or not. I've got a bag packed ready in case things develop but I'm putting off hitting the road until I know a bit more. |
Aug 2019
9:10pm, 22 Aug 2019
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leaguefreak
Sorry to hear that Nellers. Hoping to get my mum up to see our new place on Sunday. She can visit now we have a downstairs loo. |
Aug 2019
9:32pm, 22 Aug 2019
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LindsD
That sounds miserable, Nellers
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Aug 2019
9:36pm, 22 Aug 2019
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ThorntonRunner
That's tough Nellars
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