Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.
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Jul 2019
6:43am, 31 Jul 2019
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Little Miss Happy
Oh blimey. I don't know whether to laugh or cry at some of the things your elderlies are coming out with - not uncommon unfortunately, as Mandy says, no filter.
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Jul 2019
7:04am, 31 Jul 2019
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DocMoye
I used to take my dad to a singing for dementia class. Everyone was brought by a carer most of the cared for completely lacked filters. There was one particularly large carer and once one person made a comment the rest of the room joined in with a lot of discussion about how the chair was going to cope!
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Jul 2019
7:22am, 31 Jul 2019
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Lip Gloss
My dad is like that - thinks he has the right to say what what he likes to whoever 
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Jul 2019
9:50am, 31 Jul 2019
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jabberknit
Surprisingly for her generation, my Mum isn't particularly racist, perhaps through having lived and worked all her life in a city and industry that have always known and relied on waves of new immigrants. She will speak her mind loudly about anything else though. She also gets the Daily Mail, but doesn't actually read much of it - she just likes the TV info, crosswords and other puzzles in it! We're bringing her down to the East Mids for the weekend, for little family celebration of her 90th birthday next week. She seems to be doing OK at the moment, having recovered well from the TIA earlier this year, so we've lost a bit of momentum in discussing her future. Not sure how to tackle this now. |
Jul 2019
11:53am, 31 Jul 2019
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postieboy
Despite my Mum talking rubbish and interrogation, it was a successful trip. We didn't fall out, got fed well (I miss her cooking, always do) and had a good day out yesterday even with awful weather. Mum's even planning ahead just incase her health takes a turn for the worse. With that kind of clear thinking, she won't be going anywhere for a good long while. 🙂
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Jul 2019
12:06pm, 31 Jul 2019
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Sharkie
Moving further to the right, believing the Mail, isn't automatic. My lovely mum (93 when she died) committed more to the left the older she got, marching with the CND in the scary 1980s and against the Iraq war sometime later. She was never homophobic or racist -the very opposite in fact. In the relentless grip of dementia for her final years she carried her copy of the Guardian around like a talisman in the residential home my brother and his wife found for her. She never managed to read further than the headlines - which of course she didn't realise she'd already read. Bargain! But our kid knew it was important that her precious paper was delivered every day. Incidentally - in case you are assuming otherwise - she was very working class and a real Manc for ever. I miss her. |
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Jul 2019
12:07pm, 31 Jul 2019
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Sharkie
Oh and some siblings DO do their bit!
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Jul 2019
12:30pm, 31 Jul 2019
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MH
I agree - my two brothers still live in the same town (thereabouts) as my Mum, so much closer and they definitely do their bit. There is always an assumption from people that as they are men they shirk their responsibilities, but I always point out the opposite. My Mum left everything to my Dad, so when he died she was stuck - there really was no point in trying to get her interested in doing any of it herself. Without sitting down and planning it, my brothers and I have managed to divide up the tasks pretty well.
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Jul 2019
1:21pm, 31 Jul 2019
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Little Miss Happy
Good news postie. I hope you all have a lovely time jabberknit. Never having read the Daily Mail in my life I don't expect I shall suddenly start in my dotage
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Jul 2019
1:29pm, 31 Jul 2019
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Garfield
Glad things went well postie.
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