Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.
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Jun 2019
12:22pm, 18 Jun 2019
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DocMoye
Wow that's impressive Macca, hope it continues to go smoothly
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Jun 2019
12:11pm, 25 Jun 2019
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Mandymoo
Mum has finally had confirmation of vascular dementia - and she has really deteriorated in the last few weeks, and has become quite vile and nasty at times. Still waiting for a suitable place to come available to move her too but they are few and far between. The way things are progressing I cant see her going into assisted living, it will be probably be straight into care.
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Jun 2019
1:41pm, 25 Jun 2019
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ChrisHB
So sorry to hear about the nastiness. It's the crown on a bad deal.
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Jun 2019
2:33pm, 25 Jun 2019
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Lip Gloss
So sorry MM but at least you have had the diagnosis confirmed. I think my dad is vile and nasty but not sure how much of that is dementia, guessing he has alsways been a bit like that but having not lived with in our lives for 50 odd years it's hard to tell. On that note he is getting really bad, I should probably give him a call. |
Jun 2019
2:33pm, 25 Jun 2019
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Little Miss Happy
Sorry to hear about the behaviour Mandy, so difficult to experience.
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Jun 2019
3:11pm, 25 Jun 2019
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Mandymoo
It is sad as she takes it out on the younger family members who dont and wont pull her up on it. She does cause a lot of upset and it is really hard to not let it effect you. Then last night she was lovely to be with, had a very enjoyable visit and only had to pull her up once on something she said. I can cope with the forgetfulness, having the same conversation over and over again just not the nasty side of it all
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Jun 2019
3:24pm, 25 Jun 2019
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Little Miss Happy
My FiL's behaviour definitely changed for the worst as his Alzheimer's progressed LG though thankfully we tend to see brief glimpses of that side of him rather than it being the prevalent presentation. Mandy - personality changes are a symptom of vascular dementia (as you probably know) so the behaviour is probably not anything she can control, 'pulling her up' on it may actually exacerbate it if she them becomes anxious and agitated because she feels frustrated (not sure I've explained that very well - sorry of not). |
Jun 2019
3:59pm, 25 Jun 2019
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Carpathius
Hugs to you MM, and you LG. MiL has taken to 'phoning up multiple times in a row, several times a day, often in the middle of the night. It's usually the same thing - she thinks she left something in our car. Last night I tried telling her it was midnight but she insisted she had just got off the phone with her sister who was telling her that we had her 'things'. I'm trying to be patient with her, Mr Carp is getting really pissed off and wants to block her number. I've compromised by letting him unplug the 'phone at night as the home have our mobile numbers. |
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Jun 2019
5:06pm, 25 Jun 2019
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Mandymoo
LMH totally get what your saying. Generally it's just telling her to stop when she is being nasty Carp that sounds like a good compromise and as you say they have your mobile if needed |
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Jun 2019
5:19pm, 25 Jun 2019
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Little Miss Happy
That sounds like a very sensible solution Carp.
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