Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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Apr 2019
5:58pm, 20 Apr 2019
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Little Miss Happy
TIA's can be a precursor to a full blown stroke jabberknit so I'd hope that she has some sort of follow up planned.
Apr 2019
6:45pm, 20 Apr 2019
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jabberknit
She saw a consultant at the hosp, LMH, and is now on stronger blood-thinning meds than previously. Not sure what will happen next though, will have to wait and see once her GP has all the info. I think she's already taking drugs for so many things, there's not much more they can give her for anything.
Apr 2019
5:12pm, 25 Apr 2019
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LazyDaisy
Oh dear. Just received this email. I've been expecting this, though when I've been visiting Mum there's been no hint of unmanageable behaviour...

' [Mum']s confusion has escalated quite rapidly over the last few weeks and we are finding many of her behaviours difficult to manage.
Would it please be possible for us to arrange a meeting with you to discuss her residency here?
Apr 2019
5:16pm, 25 Apr 2019
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Lip Gloss
Oh dear LD that doesn't sound good :-(
Apr 2019
5:21pm, 25 Apr 2019
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TeeBee
So sorry LD (())
Apr 2019
5:21pm, 25 Apr 2019
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Little Miss Happy
Oh dear Daisy that doesn't sound good. I can't remember if your mum was ever officially diagnosed with dementia? If not then I think you need to start down that route as it could be that either the GP can prescribe something that might help or a consultant could and that would also allow access to dementia support services, funding etc.
Apr 2019
5:28pm, 25 Apr 2019
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Garfield
So sorry to hear this LD.
Apr 2019
5:37pm, 25 Apr 2019
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LazyDaisy
We've never had a formal diagnosis but you are completely right LMH we need to start getting NHS services involved now. My BiL is a retired GP, and my sister is going to come down to attend this meeting next Monday with me, armed with his advice of what we need to ask for and should expect. I've asked the home when her GP last saw her (I've never been told of any visit, particularly recently) and whether they have asked him to consider her alleged decline in behaviour (I didn't use the word alleged to them, but I do feel they've basically got fed up with her incontinence as much as anything :-( )
Apr 2019
6:16pm, 25 Apr 2019
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Little Miss Happy
The GP should definitely be the first port of call Daisy and the home should have instigated that - for the incontinence too, it could be that there is some help to be had with that, there is usually an incontinence nurse specialist in the community.
Apr 2019
6:31pm, 25 Apr 2019
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LindsD
Oh no LD

About This Thread

Maintained by LindsD
I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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