Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.
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Apr 2019
4:55pm, 17 Apr 2019
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Little Miss Happy
I hope that your wife can enjoy your break regardless Chris. It's almost toddler like behaviour isn't it? As Daisy says not uncommon unfortunately. Walking home from MiL's this afternoon my mobile goes (it's very rare that anyone calls me on it) and I find my heart thumping, head whirling with 'what can have gone wrong now' but fortunately it was the not social worker ringing me for an update - hopefully my stress levels will decrease soon. Have talked MiL through some things she may see at the care home in terms of FiL's behaviour that she has been sheltered from whilst he was on the ward and will take her for her first visit tomorrow afternoon. |
Apr 2019
4:56pm, 17 Apr 2019
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LindsD
I was going to post that it reminded me of dropping my daughter at nursery aged around 3.
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Apr 2019
5:49pm, 17 Apr 2019
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DocMoye
I remember that feeling when I took my dad for his first try out session at a day centre. The staff were lovely telling me not to worry and that they would look after him, just like dropping at nursery.
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Apr 2019
8:27pm, 17 Apr 2019
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ChrisHB
We also had that experience with a 3yo, though she spoke only English in a German Kindergarten, and the staff didn't speak English. We were talking about that only this morning.
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Apr 2019
5:29pm, 18 Apr 2019
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Little Miss Happy
Moved and seems settled - in fact I'm not sure he even knows he's moved. MiL seems a lot happier. I hope that's it for now.
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Apr 2019
5:35pm, 18 Apr 2019
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DocMoye
Good start LMH.
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Apr 2019
5:35pm, 18 Apr 2019
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jda
Great news LMH!
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Apr 2019
5:41pm, 18 Apr 2019
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LazyDaisy
Excellent news, LMH. I had a good time with my mum today. My sister came down from Nottingham, and I cooked us a nice lunch (salmon in a herby and creamy sauce, just the sort of thing she likes) and she ate well. What made me particularly happy, because it was a flash of the old mum, was her response on going into our living room. We've recently had it redecorated and refurnished, and it looks completely different to when she last saw it. She immediately said, 'Oh, all the work's finished! Doesn't it look smashing!' My mum always had 'a good eye' so 1) that fact that she remembered that we've had workmen in and 2) that she liked the result, really pleased me  Small things really, but it's what we hold on to.
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Apr 2019
5:43pm, 18 Apr 2019
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Little Miss Happy
You have to celebrate the good bits Daisy.
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Apr 2019
5:53pm, 18 Apr 2019
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jabberknit
That sounds good, LMH. My Mum has indeed had a TIA, and was very miserable and sorry for herself yesterday when I got there. She has been checked over by the hosp, and given some blood thinning tablets and is now reasonably OK physically. Really glad I went, I think it helped settle her - by this lunchtime, she was almost back to her usual cantankerous, irritable self. I should perhaps state that this isn't anything to do with age or dementia, she's always been like that, it was good to see 'normal' again! We did manage to have a brief chat about the future, helped by how much the TIA incident has scared her, and me too. I tried approaching it from the 'it would be better to to think about this NOW so you have some input into any choices/decisions before you're too infirm or demented'. (I hope I was a bit more tactful that that sounds!) We sort of left it with a promise that when she felt a bit better, she'd give some thought to what she wants to happen. A big thank you to everyone on this thread for sharing your experiences, info and suggestions, I've found so many of them very useful. |
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