Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.
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Jul 2017
10:27pm, 19 Jul 2017
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Sharkie
Carp is right, Daisy.. but I so understand. My mum lived in the same house from 1951, two years before I arrived, - for over fifty years right up until we moved her out in 2006. I had to clear the house very quickly and methodically. I was super efficient because I had to be ... til almost everytihng was done and I paused for a mistaken moment over two damask tablecloths and some bone handled cutlery. And then I was frozen and started crying. Just for everything really. It is hard. But we do get through. |
Jul 2017
10:31pm, 19 Jul 2017
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LindsD
Hugs for all of us. A lot of my family issues now are because Dad thinks his money is ours and not for my Mum to spend after he dies, on care or anything else. |
Jul 2017
11:16pm, 19 Jul 2017
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TomahawkMike
930pm phone call from an upset MiL(dementia with alzheimers) asking me to come and talk to FiL as she thinks she has driven him mad by putting the washing machine on again (one of her obsessions). So he is in the background raging and swearing about her putting the machine on again (usually for one or two items) and won't talk to me - she is frightened. This went on for 5 minutes. Second time in a week. I tell her repeatedly to go to her bedroom and go to sleep as he will be fine in the morning. Not sure what else to do as he won't accept help but just gets mad with her and shouts. Sad life. It's bizarre that she knows it's an obsession but still obsesses and knows what it does to him but can't help herself each day. The same pattern occurs with constipation (she goes everyday but forgets so insists on calling the doctor as she thinks she hasn't been for a week), buying new shoes every week, etc. - it's also bizarre that he won't do anything about getting care in and won't call the care helpine ('what can they do?' Ans: find out, they are experienced and you are not!), What a crap day. Employee breaks down in tears as she feels suicidal for personal reasons (sent home and ordered to doctor on full pay) another relative been seriously stressed over lack of money but didn't tell us how bad it was until this evening after losing total control (money given, all well). I am looking forward to tomorrow. It can only improve. I picked a bad week to give up ganja as they say. |
Jul 2017
11:31pm, 19 Jul 2017
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Badger
Rough day, Mike. Sounds as though you've done people a lot of good, though.
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Jul 2017
11:36pm, 19 Jul 2017
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Diogenes
Seeing Mum today, feeling bad because she is lonely, wishing she was well or unwell, but not in some kind of intermediate state in which she could remain for years.
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Jul 2017
11:38pm, 19 Jul 2017
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Carpathius
Blimey Mike  I hope you've got someone you can talk to. Hugs Dio. That's exactly the situation with MiL. |
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Jul 2017
11:39pm, 19 Jul 2017
12,213 posts
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Carpathius
And  to Duchess
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Jul 2017
11:41pm, 19 Jul 2017
18,325 posts
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LindsD
What Badger said
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Jul 2017
6:41am, 20 Jul 2017
790 posts
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TomahawkMike
Carpathius..for someone to talk to I have OH and this thread helped get it off my chest. Thanks
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Jul 2017
7:14am, 20 Jul 2017
19,092 posts
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LazyDaisy
You are all lovely. And Mike that's a really troubling situation with your parents-in-law Mike. I hope your FiL accepts help soon.
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