Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.
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Dec 2018
5:27pm, 13 Dec 2018
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Rosehip
That is probably right H  (you will probably find one annoying account that won't talk to you without probate - and from whom you need information before you can apply for probate. In our experience, the way to deal with that is to ignore the account or guess the value (unless obvs. it's a million and you'de be dodging tax  ) We had the most trouble with HMRC -be prepared for a series of cheques and or bills and or statements that bear no relation to anything you're told on the 'phone. Have you got the house insurance sorted into someone else's name? ((())) |
Dec 2018
5:43pm, 13 Dec 2018
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Little Miss Happy
Wow - you have been busy Helegant. Good to hear that you're making so much progress and that you are going to (hopefully) be able to have a bit of downtime over the weekend. There are definitely good people in the world - we just hear more about the bad ones unfortunately.
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Dec 2018
5:49pm, 13 Dec 2018
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jdarun
Yeah well done H you've almost caught me up and my sister died back in April! Though that was intestate so a lot of to-and-fro to even get appointed executor. Still waiting on the tax thing...then a new will to write...it'll all be over by (next) christmas perhaps.
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Dec 2018
5:50pm, 13 Dec 2018
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hurricanehamlyn
Well done Helegant. Hopefully it will be a smooth process. Mum, me and my brother are still trudging on and Dad died last December. Solicitors have not really helped!
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Dec 2018
6:10pm, 13 Dec 2018
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Diogenes
Ha! Because I can’t drive to my Mum’s at the moment, I did an online shop for her that was delivered this afternoon. It was all the normal stuff she has from normal shop. Soon afterwards she rang me. “I didn’t want all this stuff, all I wanted was a Christmas Dinner, I told you that. And it’s not from Sainsbury’s!” I just about stopped her hanging up to explain that: a) it was nearly 2 weeks until Christmas and this was to keep her going until then. b) we’d be coming up before Christmas and would bring her Christmas dinner. c) I always get her shopping from Tesco as it’s out nearest supermarket. I didn’t bother mentioning that she’d not said a word to me about getting her ‘a Christmas dinner’ before today. She apologised, but didn’t sound sorry, then hung up. |
Dec 2018
10:24pm, 13 Dec 2018
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LindsD
Yes Helegant, the probate helpline. We found all the banks very respectful and helpful. You are doing so well.
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Dec 2018
10:34pm, 13 Dec 2018
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Merry Lip Gloss
Hopefully it will be smooth sailing for you Helegant. Dad goes for his op on his ear tomorrow. It should be an in and out on the same day so I will phone him tomorrow evening. |
Dec 2018
7:11am, 14 Dec 2018
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Bazoaxe
MiL has just phoned. She who sleeps all day. You are up early says my wife. Yeah been up all night writing Christmas cards. Then proceeds to ask for reminders of people’s names. I’ve long suspected she had turned night into day. |
Dec 2018
7:34am, 14 Dec 2018
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DingDongMerrilyDaisy
My mum does that from time to time Bazo - often when she's got an underlying wee infection.
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Dec 2018
1:25pm, 14 Dec 2018
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Hark the Helegant Angels Sing
In the spirit of fetchfam I'd like to add an interim thank you to all on this thread. Your hints have been very helpful, and yes, the first thing I did was sort the house insurance. That was the easiest. They recorded that Dad had died, took my details and added 'Executors of' to the account name. Just like that! So to all here, huge hugs for dealing so lovingly with all your frail and confused relatives, and for the mutual support. As you may be able to tell I'm now home and feeling emotional. |
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