Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.
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May 2018
7:27am, 16 May 2018
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LazyDaisy
 Linds. Going back a few pages - talking about losing a grasp on time - Mum and I had a lovely day yesterday. I took her out for fish and chips which she loves then for a drive in the countryside which she enjoyed hugely. But while we were out I mentioned that I'd been swimming in the lake earlier that day. She was horrified and kept thinking I was *going* swimming after our trip out (she thinks I will get 'bitten by the fish' ;-)). I just could not convince her that I'd already been and look, I was back safely. Indeed, in the evening she phoned to check I was home safely. It's the clearest example yet of her confusion between 'before' and 'after'
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May 2018
8:19am, 16 May 2018
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LindsD
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May 2018
12:25pm, 16 May 2018
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Carpathius
Daisy. Mike, it can be hard to tell, but with MiL most of this stuff is deliberate and not confusion, at least at the moment. It's an ongoing thing. When we confront her (gently) like with the shower, she will admit she lied on purpose. |
May 2018
1:14pm, 16 May 2018
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jdarun
Increasingly concerned about FiL now. Memory a complete sieve and increasingly clueless in unfamiliar environments. But he seems basically unworried by it all so perhaps we should all just continue in denial for a bit longer! With my dad a big part of the problem was his own distress at his symptoms.
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May 2018
3:00pm, 16 May 2018
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Little Miss Happy
MiL was doing well with the denial until FiL went walkabout jda so I guess it depends on how much potential danger there is.
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May 2018
5:43pm, 16 May 2018
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ChrisHB
You really have the short straw, carp. Lying just makes everything so difficult.
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May 2018
5:48pm, 16 May 2018
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Carpathius
At least if we know she tells fibs (as she calls them) then we can be a bit sceptical and double check things, challenge her if it's important or harmful, and get things sorted (like, food and cooking. She's agreed a trial of meals on wheels at last). It will eventually morph into it being a memory problem. If she gets out of the habit of eating and drinking now when she's still aware she needs to, it will be very hard when she gets to the stage where she genuinely doesn't remember if she did or not. |
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May 2018
3:06pm, 19 May 2018
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LindsD
Got Dad's probate through today  But then I noticed that that doesn't mean the inheritance tax is sorted. Boo. And then I tried to sort out transfering his share of the house to me and my sister with the Land Registry and it's unbelievably opaque. I just don't understand. I will have to call them on Monday, but I have to say I have very little energy for another round of forms and ID verification. |
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May 2018
4:32pm, 19 May 2018
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LazyDaisy
Oh I do sympathise on the Land Registry issues Linds. Son2's flat sale has been delayed while some legal spaghetti unpicking has been 'pending' for ages and is now being 'fast-tracked' ie 'will take another few weeks' But at least getting probate through is a hurdle overcome. |
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May 2018
5:34pm, 19 May 2018
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LindsD
I thought it would be simple
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