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Transgender exercise - Lets Fetch Everyone

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Jul 2020
8:34pm, 24 Jul 2020
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Yes, I'm happy to answer any questions that people may have :)
Jul 2020
8:49pm, 24 Jul 2020
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Thanks. No issues here I just want to be an inclusive as possible but up to now I was afraid that asking questions would offend. The glossary is really helpful, thanks.
Jul 2020
11:11pm, 24 Jul 2020
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I think a lot of really well intentioned people are afraid to ask questions because they're aware of not wanting to impose any extra burden on people they recognise are already carrying more than their fair share - and that's already a pretty advanced level of understanding in a complex area tbh.

I know a lot of trans and NB people get justifiably fed up with being expected to devote their time and energy to educating folk for whom these issues are little more than an intellectual exercise or curiosity. (I also know a lot of very privileged people who really do expect those with less privilege to unquestioningly provide all the extra emotional labour they demand, and who then get shitty if they're not satisfied :( )

We're very lucky that there are fetchies with both personal insight and enough spare mental energy that they're happy to share their experiences and help other fetchies who want understand more, and I think this thread exists in part to match up the curious with the happy to help.
Jul 2020
9:09am, 25 Jul 2020
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Agree 100%
Jul 2020
4:18pm, 25 Jul 2020
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well said Raemond
Aug 2020
10:12pm, 15 Aug 2020
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I learnt much from listening to this BBC Radio 4 programme broadcast tonight. Its theme was that of 'Coming Out', and whether it ought to be an expected step for a person take.

The presenter, Dustin Lance Black, wrote the screenplay for 2008s film, 'Milk', a biopic of Harvey Milk, political activist and gay rights campaigner.
Aug 2020
10:30pm, 15 Aug 2020
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I watched Milk last night swittle!

It's currently on Amazon Prime.
Aug 2020
8:30am, 16 Aug 2020
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Two minds with a single focus, fozz. :)

A prison officer training for Cert Ed gave a presentation on Harvey's life and work years ago in one of my classes. His topic taught me the importance of being slow to pre-judge.

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About This Thread

Maintained by CreatureOfTheHill
A thread about how we can encourage and include people in whatever exercise they are interested in and removing barriers to participation.

Amendments/Corrections/Requests just ask for a sidebar edit.
This is NOT comprehensive, just some helpful shorthand.

Gender Identity ≠ Gender Expression ≠ Anatomical Sex ≠ Sexual Orientation

Anatomical sex = The physical aspects that make you fit into a category based on genitals, chromosomes etc i.e. Intersex, Female, Male...
Gender identity = The internal view of gender, the way you see yourself.
Gender expression = The way you present to others externally through clothing, behaviours, language and other social signals.

Sexual orientation = Who you are attracted to.

None of the above are dependent on any of the others, individuals may relate one to another in their specific case, but assuming what one might be based on observation of another is not a sound basis for determination.

Transgender (Trans) = When your gender identity does not match your identity assigned at birth based on anatomical sex.
Cisgender (Cis) = When your gender identity matches your identity assigned at birth based on anatomical sex.
Non Binary (Enby) = When your gender identity doesn't fall into either of the female/male choice. It may exist somewhere on the spectrum between woman and man, either stable of fluctuating between woman-ness and man-ness. This may encapsulate those that may use terms such as genderfluid, agender, demigender et al.

Pronouns = she/her, him/his, them/they etc...
How to refer best to someone else. Really simply, follow their lead. Ask if unsure, be polite. If corrected, it's not a problem unless you repeatedly ignore correction.

Transition = The process somebody goes through to alter their physical attributes to better match their gender identity and expression.

Dysphoria = The distress a person feels due to a mismatch between their gender identity and their sex assigned at birth. Can fluctuate and be experienced at varying degrees.
Dysmorphia = Discomfort with the shape/form of the body. Present in eating disorders and the like, but can often effect transgender people, with triggers such as body hair presence/absence, chest/genital presentation etc.
Deadname - The name a person is assigned at birth, that they no longer use.

Triggers = Things that are known to cause an effect. Typically, X causes a person to experience dysphoria/dysmorphia. Sometimes these can be managed/avoided, other times they are inevitable.

amab = assigned male at birth (originally born anatomically male)

afab = assigned female at birth (originally born anatomically female)

ftm = female to male transitioner
mtf = male to female transitioner
egg = state of somebody before becoming aware they were transgender i.e. "their egg cracked when they realised and began to emerge"
GIC/GIS = Gender Identity Clinic/Service, providing transition services
GRS = Gender Reassignment Surgery

General notes:
* Not everyone will be comfortable talking about their situation, depending on where they are.
* Not everyone has the language to articulate how they feel, what they want to say. Be patient.
* These things are NOT static, what you encounter in a person today may evolve into something else later.
* Am I trans/cis/enby etc... Frankly, you tell us. Whatever YOU are comfortable with at the time is what we will adopt. It is YOUR identity.
* This language is weird. Yup, and we (CreatureOfTheHill) as a plural system talk strange too, it's OK. We (CreatureOfTheHill) are not "normal", never have been.
* Am I weird/abnormal? Possibly, but it has NOTHING to do with being here or being trans/enby or whatever. People just are in general, and that is OK, we love you for your quirkiness.

Genderbread Person

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