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Grammar pedants - help please.

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Diogenes Feb 2022 7:05pm, 11 Feb 2022 67,152 posts	Quote Pin Diogenes *sorry, I’ve never heard remember or dismember use in that way…
Columba Feb 2022 8:55pm, 11 Feb 2022 21,578 posts	Quote Pin Columba I suppose you could argue that to dismember is to take apart, while to remember is to put together (mentally) items in the past to create a memory.
ChrisHB Feb 2022 10:50pm, 11 Feb 2022 21,512 posts	Quote Pin ChrisHB that is about 1% plausible in my mind. Have you ever encountered it, Columba? Though I think the 'remember' in this context is to recall, not to create a memory?
Heinzster Feb 2022 11:32pm, 11 Feb 2022 2,077 posts	Quote Pin Heinzster I have recently heard of a person requesting personal pronouns of 'he/their'. I can't understand this from a grammatical perspective. (I can understand 'he/him, she/her, they/their', and I'm not knocking their choices but the phrase 'he wants their breakfast' doesn't feel right) Any thoughts?
JCB Feb 2022 7:17am, 12 Feb 2022 3,063 posts	Quote Pin JCB Is that usage of dismember a confusion from disremember? Meaning forget?
macca 53 Feb 2022 11:28am, 12 Feb 2022 29,592 posts	Quote Pin macca 53 [definitely not going to wander into the pronoun issues one - ]
Northern Exile Feb 2022 11:36am, 12 Feb 2022 8,451 posts	Quote Pin Northern Exile I considered wandering into that one too, then thought better of it. All I can say is that someone has their personal and possessive pronouns mixed up!
JCB Feb 2022 11:57am, 12 Feb 2022 3,064 posts	Quote Pin JCB Re-member as a meaning of putting something together could be an antonym for dismember. (But I don’t see that in any dictionaries).
Columba Feb 2022 1:21pm, 12 Feb 2022 21,580 posts	Quote Pin Columba I strongly dislike that use of "their" as a singular genderfree pronoun. I'd rather we invented a new genderfree personal pronoun. I'm sure some languages have them. 1% plausible, ChrisHB? I'll go for that. Though as a psychologist (retired, admittedly) I am aware that we are creative in what we remember, and do in fact put things together over time rather than storing a mental replica of what actually happened.
Heinzster Feb 2022 1:48pm, 12 Feb 2022 2,079 posts	Quote Pin Heinzster NE, that is my issue. To my mind the singular and possesive pronouns should agree. The use of a plural pronoun for an individual also grates and I would prefer a neutral option. This is not trying to get at anyone's personal choices, please don't think I am!