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Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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25 Sep
9:39pm, 25 Sep 2021
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I had long conversation with her a couple of weeks ago, but she just keeps saying she’s fine, I’ll go with her to her next appointment- if I’m allowed and she actually makes it.

They will insist on putting the phone on speaker and having joint conversations, so it’s hard unless we visit - which was complicated by the thing that has complicated everything and made worse by a row btwn husband and his brother *sighs, rolls eyes and says a sexist “typical bloody men” comment to herself*
25 Sep
10:29pm, 25 Sep 2021
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My grandma definitely put grandad's health before hers with almost disastrous consequences, although thankfully she had her operation in time and she's recovering better than they hoped.
25 Sep
10:58pm, 25 Sep 2021
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Both of my Grandmas carried on 'not making a fuss' until long after both of their husbands had died and it was the death of both of them.

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Maintained by LindsD
I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)

Other useful links

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

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