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Bereavement

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Aug 2020
7:51am, 27 Aug 2020
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mushroom
After mum died I cried a lot while running - it helps with emptying my mind anyway - and I think I was just free to let it go.
Aug 2020
7:57am, 27 Aug 2020
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Mrs Jigs (Luverlylegs)
Big_G I would consider it perfectly normal, at such an awfully sad time I think we try to hold on to a little bit of normal, also gives a person the space they need to try to process the situation.
Aug 2020
8:03am, 27 Aug 2020
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Big_G
Mushroom, yeah, in the early days/weeks/months I was running with tears streaming down my face on occasion. But I still just knew I wanted to be out there.

Mrs Jigs, totally agree. I think (well, I know) some of my non-running friends thought I was doing too much and literally "running away" from things. I calmly tried to explain that wasn't possible to do and in fact running was being beneficial to me.

I think that's the thing. When she died everything - and I mean absolutely everything - changed. But running was and still is a constant.

One thing I was lucky to find was a group that is for people who have lost partners at a young age (there are an upsetting number of us out there). Finding that group, as well as the running, are the things that helped me the most. Being people who just "got it" was massively, massively helpful.
Aug 2020
8:05am, 27 Aug 2020
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Big_G
*Being with people...
Aug 2020
8:11am, 27 Aug 2020
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EvilPixie
tearful runs - yep
when you finish and you are red in the face people just assume it's the run
it allows you to run, and cry, without the fear of being judged
when dad was in the hospice I stayed at mum's for a while and cycled there and back daily (6m to the hospice was actually quicker than driving most days) and crying on the bike is less good
Sep 2020
10:29am, 7 Sep 2020
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mushroom
My youngest started high school today. I forget what the triggers are until they happen, but it's days like today that I miss my parents - all the excitement and pride of seeing their grandchildren reach certain milestones like going off to school.
Sep 2020
10:31am, 7 Sep 2020
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LindsD
I know what you mean
Sep 2020
10:33am, 7 Sep 2020
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Derby Tup
My mum never knew I got married or have a dog. I often imagine her telling friends, ‘oooh, you’ll never guess what; our Andrew got married’
Sep 2020
10:46am, 7 Sep 2020
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Lip Gloss
My mum saw all her grandchildren but none of her great grandchildren sadly and my dad isn't that interested

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