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ndellar Dec 2016 9:43am, 7 Dec 2016 3,353 posts	0 ndellar You are wise Meg I've also been on the flip side where I've been with someone, come to the conclusion we should not be together, and agonised for some time over if we should finish, thinking perhaps if I changed or tried harder it would all be ok. Maybe that makes me horrid and evil, but it's not easy and actually it took me longer to move on from that.
The Teaboy Dec 2016 9:43am, 7 Dec 2016 14,926 posts	0 The Teaboy FWIW, my cousin was in a LTR and split. They got back together a few years later, married and have just had child. Seem blissfully happy. It can work if both parties realise they were wrong although I agree it's odds against.
The Teaboy Dec 2016 9:44am, 7 Dec 2016 14,927 posts	0 The Teaboy And yeah, it can be hard to kick a relationship where it deserves to go. But go cold turkey on it. Best way.
jangles Dec 2016 10:09am, 7 Dec 2016 2,732 posts	0 jangles I think my husband had the idea that we'd all be buddies and he could pop round and see the dog and we'd all be fine. I can't even think about him without having a meltdown. I have been in close proximity to him twice in the 5 months since he left and both times I panicked and passed out. I have actually had a complete breakdown and it now appears my son is experiencing the same issues. I hope he's satisfied with his new love life because the complete devastation he's caused needs to be worth something. And the house guest was kept firmly at arms length.. not going there!
Merry X-Maz xx Dec 2016 10:18am, 7 Dec 2016 8,207 posts	0 Merry X-Maz xx oh jangles.... I hope you and your son can get through this soon. it pains us all to see you in so much hurt.... Interesting scenario Teaboy, i guess if enough time lapses, years not months, maybe you can have a happy ending. but yeah, probably rare. Exes are usually exes for a reason.
colettedeann Dec 2016 10:35am, 7 Dec 2016 25,254 posts	0 colettedeann sounds rough for jangles and meg amd meg it is best to have no contact - you know it is good bye and not worth the anxiety of making it a face to face one x
Red Squirrel Dec 2016 10:39am, 7 Dec 2016 19,580 posts	0 Red Squirrel I know it sounds really hippyish but meditation can be really helpful. Local Buddhist centres usually have free or contribution meditation sessions. It can be really helpful to learn to focus on breathing and give your mind and body time out. I'm not a Buddhist but I went to a local centre to learn to meditate and now I use the Headspace app, after reading the book. I also accessed the Palouse stuff available on line and also free.
Southcoastpete Dec 2016 11:32am, 7 Dec 2016 5,370 posts	0 Southcoastpete I'm another Headspace user. Meditation has been really valuable for me for lots of reasons. Or just going out for a walk. This time of year is not great for being on your own, reminiscing and all that.
Merry X-Maz xx Dec 2016 11:33am, 7 Dec 2016 8,208 posts	0 Merry X-Maz xx Same, i am finding it tough this Xmas
Red Squirrel Dec 2016 12:02pm, 7 Dec 2016 19,584 posts	0 Red Squirrel Christmas is a tough time. I'm an only child and my parents live in a tiny, claustrophobic bungalow. They expect me to stay over and it can be hard work. It's times like that I wish I had a car - I'd be happy to drive there and then back again for Boxing day. I'm just not keen on staying over. They live up a long road off a major road, so there's no village hub. I find it a very difficult day and I wish I didn't as I feel guilty, but there it is.