Who are all the single Fetchies!!

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FergusG Dec 2016 11:08pm, 6 Dec 2016 849 posts	0 FergusG ...and don't spend too much time on Facebook, reading about the exaggerated and filtered version of everyone's fantastic portrayal of their lives.
Ding dong Meglet on high Dec 2016 11:12pm, 6 Dec 2016 17,250 posts	0 Ding dong Meglet on high I hear you, I do. But I do need to see him. I can't move on until I do.
Southcoastpete Dec 2016 11:43pm, 6 Dec 2016 5,368 posts	0 Southcoastpete Hi Meg, completely normal to feel how you do. Though are you planning to meet and try and get back with him? Everytime I get a text I half expect its from an ex. Ex from a few
Southcoastpete Dec 2016 11:46pm, 6 Dec 2016 5,369 posts	0 Southcoastpete Years a go text to say she "really missed me" and it was a huge struggle to not reply.
Ding dong Meglet on high Dec 2016 11:52pm, 6 Dec 2016 17,251 posts	0 Ding dong Meglet on high No I don't think we can get back together. I need to understand and I need to say goodbye, he never let me have that chance.
elfpint Dec 2016 8:40am, 7 Dec 2016 21,774 posts	0 elfpint I really feel for you meglet. You have to do what's right for you. You might have to prepare for the fact you might not like what he has to say. Hopefully you will be able to accept and start the process of moving on. RS I have spoken to many more people locally since getting the dog. Not met any suitable young cough men. I'm not really actively looking at the moment though. Life is complicated enough.
Merry X-Maz xx Dec 2016 9:23am, 7 Dec 2016 8,206 posts	0 Merry X-Maz xx Meglet, just be strong.... says me, I am notoriously weak willed in matters of exes... I only actually believe you move on when you fall for someone else.... 15 months on, and apart from kissing a few frogs, I haven't met anyone or totally moved on emotionally. My head knows i am in the right place now, my heart and my hormones beg to differ....
ndellar Dec 2016 9:23am, 7 Dec 2016 3,352 posts	0 ndellar I feel for you too. Many years ago I was dumped by someone I was engaged to, for no apparent reason. We lived together, my whole world was turned upside down - I totally understand why you want some closure. We remained 'friends', although in reality this was a mistake - just me desperately clinging on trying to find closure, and stupidly I thought still occasionally getting together (yes late at night as well) would somehow win him back (this was all on a subconscious level I might add) Some things then dawned on me - if we did get back together, could I ever relax / trust him not to have this wobble again (no), if we didn't would I ever get proper answers anyway (no). So in the absence of any answers I came to the conclusion that whatever had happened he was not the person I fell in love with and cut all ties. Hard, but I felt 1000x better for it. I really hope you get what you need out of meeting up.
Ding dong Meglet on high Dec 2016 9:28am, 7 Dec 2016 17,252 posts	0 Ding dong Meglet on high I'm a firm believer that unless you were friends before you were romantically involved then you can't be friends after. Besides, remaining friends is all very well until new partners arrive. I also believe that once you've broken up you shouldn't get back together, though my belief in that has been seriously challenged in the last couple of weeks!
Red Squirrel Dec 2016 9:31am, 7 Dec 2016 19,572 posts	0 Red Squirrel I find that if someone has a wobble and you take them back; somewhere in the subconscious you never fully trust them and end up leaving them eventually. This has happened to so many of my friends and to me.