Who are all the single Fetchies!!
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Sep 2015
6:42pm, 30 Sep 2015
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Southcoastpete
Thanks HB. Good to hear your closer to your Mum. Looking forward to my weekend of walking. There are 23 of us, with a more or less even M/F split. We are all staying in caravans too. I know a few of them, so should be fun. |
Sep 2015
10:02pm, 30 Sep 2015
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Hillbilly
Sounds like a great weekend SCP!! Hope it all goes well!! |
Oct 2015
7:26pm, 1 Oct 2015
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Hanneke
Sorry to hear that Pete  I have some difficult news to deal with too. My mother is not at all well, not the cancer, that seems to be totally fine, but mentally. She has at last accepted that treatment was needed so she has been seeing a psychologist and a psychiatrist. The alternative would have been having been comitted to an institution. Unfortunately things aren't going well. She resists treatment and the psychiatrist ordered a memory test. She scored worse than most of my Alzheimer patients and they are in homes or being cared for 24/7 She is in denial and doesn't want to be referred or accept treatment. It is a worrying state of affairs but after my stint in Holland over Christmas I have decided I cannot possibly sacrifice myself, sell my house, abandon my garden that I am building and the business I want to set up as well as get rid of cat and chickens, and Action Man in the process and go live with her. She doesn't want me there anyway... So that is a big N.O. even though it is expected of me. Not sure what is going to happen, I feel guilty, largely towards my sister for having to bear the brunt of it all... And a second bit of bad news is that a friend has been missing in the Highlands since last Friday... He was going hiking, they found his car in a walkers car park, but no sign of him. It is looking increasingly unlikely he will still be alive
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Oct 2015
7:41pm, 1 Oct 2015
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HowFar?
That's a lot of awful news to land at the same time, Hann - all made worse by the feeling of helplessness in both situations I imagine.
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Oct 2015
8:10pm, 1 Oct 2015
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Hanneke
Spot on HF! Total helplessness
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Oct 2015
9:35pm, 1 Oct 2015
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halfpint
Oh Hann I am so sorry to hear your news. We all know how challenging your mum can be at the best of times. You are not the best person to meet her needs right now and there is nothing to be gained from setting aside your own life. Perhaps there is something else you can do to support your family. I do hope your friend turns up. You just never know. If someone is well prepared and has the right skills they could survive out there 'til help finds them. |
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Oct 2015
12:06am, 2 Oct 2015
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Hillbilly
Sorry to hear your news Hann. Difficult but you can't sacrifice yourself! Hope your friends is safe. |
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Oct 2015
10:13am, 2 Oct 2015
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Southcoastpete
Thats a tough situation Hann. A friend of mine is in a similar situation with her mother, that she is in denial on how she is. She has even stormed out of session with a psychologist. Difficult to know what to do, but don't do anything because you feel its "expected". Any news on your friend? Grans funeral was yesterday. A sad day, but she got a nice send off. Good to see family members, and also some of her carers and home residents. They all miss her
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Oct 2015
12:21pm, 2 Oct 2015
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colettedeann
sorry to hear singlies are having a rougher time than usual at this time xxxx all |
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Oct 2015
4:30pm, 3 Oct 2015
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Hanneke
Thanks Lettie, Pete, everyone. Glad your nan had a good send off. Still no news of my friend Robin. His wife and kids are desperate from the uncertainty of it all. After 8 days, I have to start admitting that it is doubtful he is still alive... Even though he is an experienced mountaineer and hillwalker so he would have been well equipped, and the weather has been reasonable, it is still quite cold in the Highlands at night right now I have avoided calling my mother, really been pre-occupied with other things, work and building my garden. I have been working 7 days a week at least 10 hours a day the last few weeks, partly to cover my 10 day holiday in Morocco and partly because when I get back my sister, her family and my mother are coming. My sister has managed to convince my mother to come along. She doesn't travel and started categorically that she was NEVER going to set foot in the hellhol that is my valley/village/chapel She has been stressing over it and been giving my sister grief. They are not staying here, I have no room, but they have rented a converted barn. My mother, who has a very good combined pension of my father and herself and is quite well off, is complaining about having to contribute 30%. SIGH!
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