depression

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Jun 2015
3:36pm, 26 Jun 2015
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seafood
Does anyone else go to the office and somehow get through 7 hours without opening a single work-related file?

I can't motivate myself to do anything and I'm scared by how little I feel I can do about it. I could tell you all about the BBC news headlines today, though.
Jun 2015
4:12pm, 26 Jun 2015
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Southcoastpete
I have days like that Seafood, though at least I can go and have a walk around the sorting office where I work.

I'm trying to avoid the news today TBH, sounds horrible out there.
Jun 2015
4:30pm, 26 Jun 2015
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Derby Tup
A total lack of energy and focus on work is a common factor with depression for me. I suspect when I feel "high" I'm about what is normal for a lot of folk
Jun 2015
4:39pm, 26 Jun 2015
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seafood
I've been telling myself all week "re-set tonight, and tomorrow will be better" but it hasn't happened. I don't think I can talk about it to my boyfriend, as he's a "high flyer" with incredible work ethic. All he knows is that I have depression and sometimes I'm "very sad". Any ideas on how to better explain stuff to someone with no real understanding?
Jun 2015
4:43pm, 26 Jun 2015
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rf_fozzy
Yes, I often feel that when I feel "ok" - that's probably about the same as most people when they feel low.

When I feel "high" - it's about the same as what most people feel most of the time.

When I feel low, I could quite happily sit and do nothing whatsoever (and have done).

And it's a vicious cycle. Even when feeling good, you know it's only a matter of time before the next low period. And the lows are much, much longer than the highs.

I'm not feeling great at the moment, can you tell?

And as a reply for "switching off" to other stuff - I can't. Don't know how to do that. Until someone can explain clearly how and why to do it, then I'm a bit stuck.
Jun 2015
5:29pm, 26 Jun 2015
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Derby Tup
seafood there's no other way than talking about it. Depending on your relationship you could perhaps write to him, text him or email. I know its impersonal but it would start the dialogue

I kept my problem secret for decades and even now few people know. Many people would be shocked, especially current and former clients and customers
Jun 2015
8:28pm, 29 Jun 2015
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rf_fozzy
Not having a good time at the moment.

Longest conversation at the weekend was approximately 3minutes. Rest of it was spent on my own. (Managed 48hrs without speaking to anyone - although that is hardly unusual - my record on that front is something like 10-12 days...)

Could have dropped dead on Friday night and wouldn't have been missed for at least 72hrs, although I expect that's optimistic - they wouldn't necessarily notice for at least 2-3 days at work. I reckon I could quite easily manage at least a week before anyone realised.
Jun 2015
8:41pm, 29 Jun 2015
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Derby Tup
I know this could sound as trite as "pull your socks up" or "there's nowt wrong with you I can see" but in my experience the very worst thing you can do when you're ill is stay at home and what I call "sit in it". I felt dreadful most of the weekend having had 2 or 3 weeks where I felt (very uncharacteristically) upbeat but my wife dragged me out with friends yesterday and I feel human again today
Jun 2015
8:44pm, 29 Jun 2015
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rf_fozzy
I have no wife/girlfriend to drag me out. And not many friends either. And anyway, I try not to inflict myself on them as much as possible.

S'ok. Dragged myself into work today. Just another evening tonight in silence (apart from the TV). Need to motivate myself to make some tea, but just can't be bothered at the moment.
Jun 2015
8:58pm, 29 Jun 2015
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Southcoastpete
Perhaps feeling like you want to stay in is a sign of well, perhaps thats what you should do, I guess. Depends if thats your choice, or made for you.

I have to wife or GF at the moment, friends aren't always around either. Though I'm fortunate that I'm in something called Meet Up, which means I have a number of social groups I can go out with. So Saturday was walking, and yesterday was a pub Sunday lunch in Brighton, which was fun.

Great thing is its kind of different people, and only a few hours, so I can relax and just be myself, no need to "Try and impress"

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