depression
241 watchers
Jul 2014
8:37pm, 17 Jul 2014
9,115 posts
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Liliaicha
JK - I'm a chef, but if I'm honest it's not a high pressure job - I wouldn't be able to handle that! It's a Monday-Friday, 7.30-14.30 job, 6 miles away from where I live with a wonderful, hardworking very capable assistant who understands depression! I SPECIFICALLY chose this job, because it can 'manage' it. Nice hours, no weekends, easy cooking, regular customer base (NOT the general public!) short easy commute and plenty of time to train and race. Poorly paid, but we can't have everything! It fits in with my life and I don't dread going to work every morning. So now everything has changed I'm finding it very difficult to cope. My manager knew I was finding it very hard, and had many tearful discussions with her on the phone, but since I've been off this week, not one member of management has called me about it. I have basically left messages telling that I've been signed off, but no response! TYPICAL! |
Jul 2014
9:26pm, 17 Jul 2014
9,106 posts
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JK *chameleon*
You say it's not high pressure - I reckon you aren't giving yourself enough credit  Disappointing about management. Way to make you feel supported :/ I'd say try to put it to the back of your mind, concentrate on getting back some equilibrium. They may (misguidedly) be giving you some space given you have a GP note? |
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Jul 2014
9:01am, 18 Jul 2014
9,116 posts
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Liliaicha
JK - knowing the management team they're just not bothered! Regarding my fitness for work note - it says from 14/07/2014 to 21/07/2014 Does this mean that I'm signed off for Monday 21st too? I want to go back to the docs on that day to discuss things, but thinking maybe I should be going back to work on that day. |
Jul 2014
11:52am, 18 Jul 2014
4,073 posts
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Endorphins Junky
(((Lil))) Pressure is, I think, entirely personal. I think it's really difficult to cope with changes. Not sure what the Fitness note means, maybe ring the surgery and ask the admin staff? Hope you feel better soon. |
Jul 2014
12:06pm, 18 Jul 2014
915 posts
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ThorntonRunner
On page 11 of this gov.uk (government fit note guidance) dates are inclusive, so you're signed off for Mon 21st.
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Jul 2014
12:21pm, 18 Jul 2014
9,117 posts
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Liliaicha
Thanks EJ. Have googled and found that the dates are inclusive. Not sure if I'm going to need more time off. My emotions are so up and down at the moment I just don't know what I can cope with and what I can't. Couldn't even cope with shopping this morning. Was already for a nice browse round the food market, but just couldn't face anyone, and came home empty handed and almost in tears. When I was off work last year I felt like really needed it, "deserved" it almost (but that's not the right word really) It gave me time to think, recover, rest and look after myself, have some counselling, sort my brain out a bit, and come to terms with the way my life would be. Now I just feel guilty, silly, miserable, disjointed, useless, self-obsessed, uncaring, pathetic etc. And I don't like it. It serves no purpose. |
Jul 2014
1:39pm, 18 Jul 2014
8 posts
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VinceVega
Just checking in. Hope people are doing all right. Ive had a bit of an improvement recently. Enjoying my running again, still seeing a lass from uni and finally admitted to my mum that I dont particularly want to teach anymore, even though I havent even finished my training yet. Still not 100% and keep going through slumps, but seem to be getting there and have a more clear idea of where I am headed. Been on the pills for 5 months now, with the last couple being a reapeat prescription so Doctor thinks im improving as well. |
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Jul 2014
7:58pm, 18 Jul 2014
9,118 posts
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Liliaicha
Just realised that I'm too scared to change jobs because I won't get so much sick pay as I do in my current job (6 months full pay, 6 months half pay) I'm not exactly sure what this says about me, but I don't like it! |
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Jul 2014
8:02pm, 18 Jul 2014
9,119 posts
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Liliaicha
Have seen a fab job advertised, but too scared to apply because the hours and days would be totally different to what I work now, but the food I would be involved with would be amazing rather than bog-standard or humdrum which is what I do now And all I can think of is "but what if I get sick again?" |
Jul 2014
12:23am, 19 Jul 2014
3,710 posts
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Carpathius
(((Lili))) I wish I had something helpful to say but I don't VV, that's great, you're going in the right direction by the sound of it. I'm... ugh. Struggling. And mightily pissed off with myself. |
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